“What do you do when your non-christian friends ask why you don’t support the gays and why you don’t think that’s right? I’m asking this question in the context when they completely disregard the bible and don’t count that as a valid answer or reason to not agree with that lifestyle choice.”
We need to accept this is a real question being asked today. We live in a post-Christian society and in the context of relentless worldly promotion of homosexuality and the “LGBTQ” (lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, questioning) agenda. There is need for prayer and care for the youth facing this issue almost daily in one way or another. It is important to realize too that same sex attraction can be a reality for anyone of us living in this fallen world as depraved sinners.
In answering the question above, however, we need to be humbly yet emphatically clear that same sex relations are never right and always wrong for several reasons. Not only because God forbids it but because it is against nature and our being created male and female. Contrary to what people say, a person’s sexual orientation is not a matter of feeling or mood or opinion, but we are either a man or a woman, a boy or a girl, period. God instituted marriage to be only between one man and one woman and for as long as both shall live. Always therefore same sex attraction is to be resisted and rejected as sinful before God and our neighbor. Constantly we must maintain (whether a person accepts it or not) what God declares, that same-sex relations are an abomination (Leviticus 20:13). There is indisputable evidence from history and to the present day that same-sex relations promotes disease and discontent, and breaks down marriage and family. It brings on the destruction of any society in the long run. Whereas sexual relations as God ordained in the bond of marriage between a man and a woman is only wholesome and good and most pleasurable and fruitful. God with His laws is never a “kill-joy” but man’s own sinful ideas surely kill joy, sadly and tragically and repeatedly so.
Quoting from the Calgary FRC bulletin of late, as someone said, “Homosexuality is an evolutionary dead-end.” It is such a lie and delusion then to read in the Calgary Herald awhile back, “The Calgary Pride Parade is now a mainstream family event.” Let us beware of the worldly news media wicked propaganda and agenda, calling what is evil, good and what is good, evil.
How true too what John Mackay writes about this matter (and also quoted in a Calgary FRC bulletin). “Let us never forget that being nice, but not clearly honest on what gay ‘love’ is all about, how filthy it is, nor ever sharing how offended God actually is by it and how He will condemn for eternity, is a softly, softly approach that has achieved little. My contact with many homosexuals over the years inside and outside the church, shows that the [saving] results we have seen have been from lovingly telling them the blunt truth … all of it.”
Two helpful books on this subject:
- “One Man & One Woman—Marriage and Same Sex Relations,” by Joel R. Beeke and Paul M. Smalley–with a foreword from Rosaria Butterfield, RHB publications.
- “What does the Bible Really Teach about Homosexuality,” by Kevin DeYoung, Crossway Publications.